There is a whole discussion here of different guys about keeping their foreskin retracted. A lot do it to see what it would feel like to be cut or to get used to the feel before they get cut. You can see different info and views here. ----
March 7, 2014 at 3:48 pm #1107 REPLY
Mick G
This topic has been on my mind a lot lately. My wife and I are having a boy in a couple weeks and its something I’ve been putting off thinking about. I’m uncut and its just normal for guys in my family, but lately I’ve been thinking a lot about it.
I’m currently in a week or so long experiment of leaving it down throughout the day. Sometimes it gets pretty uncomfortable and painful, so I’ll tuck it back in.
First question – is there any adverse effects of doing that? It feels kinda like self-mutilation
My goal is to either:
1. Help me make a decision by living circumcised for a bit or
2. Get best of both worlds. Desensitize my self for sex and be able to leave it open throughout the day.
My main motivation is smell. It seems trite, but there’s all the self-conciousness that comes with that.
This site is the only place I’ve found with people who might remotely understand and has already answered so many of my questions.
March 8, 2014 at 8:07 am #1108 REPLY
David
Mick,
I read your post and, from what I’ve read on different sites, what you are doing is not uncommon. If you do a search under “permanent foreskin retraction”,”training foreskin to stay back” or similar words, you will find much info and opinions about this. Some of the opinions are for it while others are opposed. My opinion is, that as long as your foreskin is healthy;no phimosis or paraphimosis or other medical issues;it is prefectly fine to do this. I’m not cut and have tried this. It’s somewhat difficult for me to do this because my foreskin is rather thick. When it was back, I liked the appearance. Keeping your foreskin back will help you with deciding about getting circumcised. How does your wife feel about you keeping your foreskin back? How does she feel about circumcision? You said you and your wife are having a boy. Are you going to have him circumcised? If I ever have a son,my first preference would be to let him decide as a teen if he wants to be circumcised. However, if I’m living in a place where most boys are cut, he will be circumcised at birth. I would not want him to grow up with the bad feeling I grew up with being uncut. I’m considering getting circumcised for body image and health reasons. I think you’re making a good choice for yourself.You are not mutilating your body. Your reasons are truly valid. Wishing you all the best. Keep us all posted on how things are going
David
March 9, 2014 at 3:47 pm #1111 REPLY
Mick
Thanks, I really appreciate it. I don’t think I have any of those medical issues. It was pretty tight and painful when I started having sex because it would get pulled back, but that was years ago and I have little trouble pulling it back, and no problem keeping it down (i guess that’s an issue for some men due to your search term suggestion?)
I’m in my early 30′s and have never had any issues with it. I wasn’t big into sports either tho, so maybe not as many locker room experiences as other guys. As far as my wife’s opinion, she doesn’t really have one. We’ve both only been with each other so she hasn’t experienced any others to compare it to. She’s preoccupied with the pregnancy. Our plan now is to circumcise. Which is what got me thinking about it. Of course I do agree with the idea of letting him decide, in this part of the world (my guess is 90%-95% circumcised) I don’t think anyone would fault me for it. I would say I’ve never met a circumcised man who regretted it, but I do have a friend where it was cut to low, and experiences pain from the scar tissue (I tuned out after the story got a bit graphic)
So far it does feel cleaner, I’m enjoying it. Some mild irritation right at the uretha tho. I suspect that might be the “drying” process? Feels better when I pee, and like I said, I can always cover it back up. I know very little about this stuff… and I have weak stomach… honestly, I can only read this site in pieces, just a lot of D talk to take it all in at once.
March 9, 2014 at 3:23 pm #1110 REPLY
Drew
I wasn’t circumcised as a kid and I always felt like I was weird or an outsider because all the other guys in my area were cut. The summer before I entered junior high I was out fishing with my uncle. I had to stop to piss as we were walking to the lake and my uncle said “you’re not circumcised.” Of course I was embarrassed but he was really cool. Uncle Joe asked to check my foreskin. He pushed it back to expose the head and then pulled it forward. He said it was good that the skin would retract but “you need to keep the foreskin pushed back until you get circumcised.”
Uncle Joe explained that he also had a long foreskin that extended beyond the head of his penis. He played baseball and suffered minor irritations while sweating in his athletic supporter. He said he got tired of dealing with the foreskin and got circumcised when he joined the army. He told me the worst part of the procedure was the overly sensitive penis head rubbing against his clothing. He described the procedure, showed my his circumcised penis and explained why I should keep the skin retracted. When I was cut at age 18, my head was already used to being exposed.
So keep your foreskin retracted, see if you like the feeling. If you decide to get a circumcision, you won’t have to worry about excessive sensitivity.
March 9, 2014 at 3:53 pm #1112 REPLY
Mick
thanks Drew! Thats a great story, you sound lucky to have an uncle willing to talk to you about it. Nowadays I’d be afraid of going to jail if I had a conversation like that with a nephew (don’t have any yet, I might feel different in a couple years when they start coming).
and its good advice, thanks
March 9, 2014 at 4:18 pm #1113 REPLY
David
Mick,
Glad to read your post. It sounds like you’re progressing with keeping it back.You are making a good choice. If you like what you are experiencing, it is a good choice. It sounds like you are from the USA; what region are you from? Overall, the majority of US males are circumcised;the exception being some of the states in the West Coast. Are you going to get circumcised? Best wishes to you and your wife for a healthy baby! Keep us posted on how you all are doing.
David
March 9, 2014 at 4:31 pm #1114 REPLY
David
Drew,
I read your well-written post and can totally relate to your experiences and feelings growing up uncut. I had the same feelings as well. You were lucky to have an uncle who advised you to keep your foreskin back until you were circumcised. I wish I had been given that advice. This subject in the forum is creating some good responses. All uncircumcised boys with healthy foreskins should be informed about keeping it skinned back and they should be given good information about circumcision. This way they can make an informed choice about their bodies at a time when they are of age to start getting the benefits of circumcision. Keeping the foreskin back is a great way to prepare for being circumcised, as you will start experiencing what being circumcised will be like. Your advice is spot-on!
April 3, 2014 at 5:03 pm #1138 REPLY
Joe Frazer
These are great stories. I wish I had known of this when I was a teenager. I remember when I came home from boot camp, nearly clipped and had sex for the first time with my wife; I was amazed. the sex was great and I was able to keep going a whole lot longer and the organism was greater than anything I had experienced before. I don’t know if it will be that way for you Drew but I hope that it is. I too wish I had had an uncle who had told me what to do and it would have made my teenage years easier.
April 5, 2014 at 7:06 pm #1140 REPLY
Brian
i have kept my foreskin retracted for years now so keep it up! i prefer it this way so am now considering getting it cut off as it doesn’t really serve any purpose… i wish i had an uncle that would have helped me out like yours did Drew!
April 6, 2014 at 8:08 am #1142 REPLY
David
I’m finding that keeping the foreskin back is not that uncommon. I have been doing it off and on. I’m thinking about getting circumcised. I think you have made a good choice. I wish I had an uncle like Drew had to tell me about keeping it back. My teen years would have been easier.
April 18, 2014 at 8:40 pm #1158 REPLY
Drew
Glad that my response was helpful to you guys!I think there are many uncut males who shared similar experiences about being the “odd man out.” A site like this is so very useful to guys who think they are suffering alone with a difficult situation.
Like so many others have said, the ONLY regret is that you didn’t get circumcised sooner. Some municipalities have big signs in road construction zones which apply to adult circumcision: Temporary Inconvenience, Permanent Improvement.
April 19, 2014 at 9:06 am #1160 REPLY
David
Hi Drew,
Glad to read your post. Your response has definitely been a help to all of us here. Totally support training the foreskin to stay back before getting circumcised. I said it before; all uncircumcised boys with healthy foreskins should be educated about keeping their foreskins back and about the benefits of circumcision. This way they can make the best informed decisions for their personal health. Wish I had an uncle like yours! Training the foreskin back is a great way to prepare for entering a new phase of life as a circumcised man.
April 20, 2014 at 7:28 am #1161 REPLY
Nick
I kept my foreskin pulled back on and off from the age of about 17 for varying lengths of time. I went ‘full-time’ for four and half years before my circumcision. It had the benefit of allowing my glans to dry out and acclimatize, so after the ‘cut’ there was no painful over-sensitivity which many guys get.
I belonged to a number of ‘skin-back’ groups and sites, and it is amazing how many guys keep their foreskins back. Some do it more easily than others. Some do it because they like the look or feel; or to ‘pass’ as circumcised; or they were told to by their parents or brothers or partners; some for hygiene; and some because it is just more comfortable – they usually have big glans and a rather tight skin. Many go on to be circumcised. I also know a few guys who have such short foreskins that they retracted naturally during puberty. I gather that in Japan lads are taught to keep their foreskins pulled back from an early age, and so they all have exposed glans.
April 21, 2014 at 8:47 am #1162 REPLY
David
Hi Nick!
I have been involved off and on with skinned back groups like yourself. This is definitely not an uncommon practice. I have skinned back off and on. I’m hoping to get mine to stay back 24/7 to prepare for getting circumcised. In Japan, it is part of normal life for boys to skin back early. Living fully retracted for 4 years gave you plenty of time to know what circumcised life would be like. What style circumcision do you have? I’m considering a low cut and moderately tight. All boys not cut at birth, with healthy foreskins should be educated about skinning back and about the benefits of circumcision. It’s about health and overall well-being.
April 26, 2014 at 5:37 am #1167 REPLY
Nick
David –
I know loads of guys who keep their foreskins pulled back – usually for aesthetic reasons. There certainly seems to be a perception that having an exposed glans is more ‘manly’. I think that doing so from a young age allows the glans to develop unconstricted and thus flare out, and also the foreskin does not grow with the penis, as there is nothing to make it do so. I think the foreskin may even shrink a bit.
I have a high a medium-tight cut, as it allows for ‘growth’ ;)
April 26, 2014 at 9:00 am #1169 REPLY
David
Hi Nick!
Thanks for your reply. Thanks for the info on keeping the foreskin pulled back. Since you were skinned back for some time before your circumcision, you are in a position to speak from experience rather than someone that has either grown up cut or uncut. I’ve come to the conclusion that only guys who have chosen to get cut have the knowledge and life experience to say which is better. From everything I’ve read on message boards in different groups, the vast majority of males circumcised as teens or adults are glad they had it done and DO NOT WANT their foreskins back. To me, that speaks volumes.
July 25, 2014 at 5:49 pm #1262 REPLY
George
Before my circ this past February, I had kept my foreskin permanently retracted for about 10 years. I first started to do it because I joined a gym with a public changing area and felt odd being (LITERALLY) the only uncut guy there. Eventually I went permanent and stayed with my glans exposed until my foreskin was removed. I found it helped adjusting to being circumcised because I was already accustomed to having my glans permanently exposed.
August 18, 2014 at 2:02 pm #1297 REPLY
Jason Rork
I am currently precut, I love hearing about guys living skinned back, and wish I could do it 24/7, but sometimes my foreskin just for no apparent reason slides over the head and usually pulls some pubic hair under it.
This is extremely painful and irritating as well as embarrassing, as I either have to reach in my pants and skin back or excuse myself and go to a public restroom where I can readjust myself, sometimes to the chagrin of other males. When having sex I skin back and use a vaccuum pump with a silicone ring to keep the foreskin retracted, all of my partners prefer cut cock, so I try to keep it stripped as though I am cut until, I can get the thing fixed.
Thanks guys, I wish I knew of these sites where guys talk about keeping their skin back permanently .
August 23, 2014 at 7:33 am #1299 REPLY
David
Jason,
I like your term “precut” for an uncircumcised guy who is considering getting cirucmcised. If you are considering keeping your foreskin back until you get cut, you may want to think about either trimming your pubic hair or completely shaving it. I completely shave mine. Personal preference. It prevents pubic hair getting trapped under the foreskin. I’m “precut” now. I think the term precut establishes in one’s mind that circumcision is in one’s future.
February 18, 2015 at 10:26 pm #1352 REPLY
Jason Rork
Thanks David, I now have a gay bodybuilder, who visits my home every month to shave and shampoo with a 4% selenium shampoo, and Palmolive
for Men Classic Palm Extract Shave Cream rubbing it liberally into the retracted head. What is happening is the head is becoming call used,
Developing a leathery texture, so it takes longer for me to reach orgasm.
I am most pleased, as this slows down my firing time, in perpetration for the final Cut, my head will be prepared for public exposure!
March 27, 2015 at 8:36 pm #1356 REPLY
Charles
I’m not circumcised and never will be and just stumbled upon this fucked up site. Why would any man choose to cut part of his dick off? Dudes, this is NOT normal.
May 26, 2015 at 11:59 pm #1373 REPLY
Choice Maker
Keymaster
Charles,
I realize this is a late reply, but…
Some men have different desires for their body than you do. I am willing to concede that the majority of uncircumcised adult men wish to remain that way, but why would you try to degrade those who do not?
By attacking men who are deciding whether to pursue a voluntary and informed adult circumcision you are effectively saying that they should not be permitted control of their own bodies.
April 1, 2015 at 12:56 am #1357 REPLY
Mark
I am British, and 27. Most British blokes are uncut, but when I was 14 during a school medical it was decided I needed to be circumcised because of “irritation”. I was lucky in that I was able to explain to the doctor how I was worried about the mickey taking at school and feeling different. They gave me what they called a minimal circumcision, and when you look at me, you can just see the head exposed (a bit like you look when you are starting to get hard). When I am fully erect I look fully circumcised (and you can see the scar), but I had the best of both worlds. I didn’t get picked on at school, I always feel clean and the fact that the top part of the cock is exposed means I don’t have any problems when I pee – no smell during the summer, and no smegma, but I do shower every day of course.
Hope this helps. Just to answer Charles, I am wondering if he is British?. Here even in London it is quite unusual for a white middle class bloke to be circumcised, so it seems unusual, but in the States the opposite is true and you would get taken the mickey of because you are not cut
April 3, 2015 at 4:41 pm #1358 REPLY
Jason
I have since my Father showed me his cock, wanted to be like him and have a real Man’s cock, a clipcock, nice and sleek, with a big exposed helmet head, hard thick and proud, like my Dad’s. he said when I became a man I would choose to be circumsized and join the brotherhood of men, but until then I would be subservient to any man who was circumsized because they were exposed and proud of their nakedness to the world. it has been my desire to become that which my Father was, by skinning back and keeping my foreskin hidden until I can find the approximate man to cut this baby fat away from my manhood, high and tight!
April 4, 2015 at 9:19 am #1359 REPLY
George
I’m pretty sure that’s all bullshit, Jason.
May 30, 2015 at 1:10 pm #1380 REPLY
Austin
George, please be respectful of other people’s posts. Jason was making his point and you were being rude. I have found that those of you for want to ‘train’ the foreskin to stay back – you can find on amazon.com some foreskin rings that you place upon the retracted foreskin. The ring keeps the glans exposed.
July 16, 2015 at 11:02 am #1408 REPLY
Jason Rork
Thank you Austin! As a matter of fact I am looking into frenulum rings both temporary to see what it is like to be circumsized and the possibility of having a permanent frenulum ring installed just below the head of my penis.
Any imput as to anyone’s experience with this way of keeping the foreskin retracted would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks, Jason
August 5, 2015 at 9:02 pm #1415 REPLY
Jason Rork
Has anyone heard of tried this new product? at stealthinnerwear.com you can be fitted for a personal garment that you wear twenty-four hours that keeps your foreskin retracted.
October 17, 2015 at 10:57 pm #1428 REPLY
dave
I certainly agree that keeping retracted and being circumcised is the way to go.I was born midcentury and of course no internet or not much other information about such matters. My parents never talked about anything sexual so they were no help. Our house had no plumbing and little privacy. Most other boys were circumcised so they knew nothing about taking care of a foreskin. My foreskin would get so sore and stinky so I started keeping it retracted and learned how to turn the skin under inside to make it stay better. I had a long elephant trunk foreskin and a penis that shrinks down when soft so it was difficult to make it stay. I didn’t know if it was wierd to do that or if any other guys did that. When I needed another minor surgery I had a circumcision done. What a relief. My wonderful wife was glad i did it too and liked much better. Now I have lived half my life without a foreskin and and so glad I had it done and never missed dirty stinky soreskin. How I wish I had this information when I was young. I think every uncircumcised should be told about these matters so they can make theit own choice. I am glad my glans was used to exposure when I got cut and was no problem.
This is all from a website I found called choosingcircumcision.org